Lesbian dating over 40: a guide to casual flings

Whether you're newly single after years with one woman, coming out later, or simply know what you want by now, a no-strings fling can fit around the rest of your life rather than take it over.

You'll be in good company

Nearly nine in ten Single Lesbians members are 35 or over, so a profile that says you're in your forties, fifties or beyond won't be the odd one out.

Single Lesbians member records: members aged 35 and over, as a share of all members, 9 October 2026.

Set the age range you want

Tell the site the ages you're interested in, and the matching uses it when it picks your daily suggestions. Age range is weighed up alongside distance, what you're looking for and how recently someone has been active, so the women you're shown each day fit what you actually want.

Say you're after something casual

Be clear on your profile that you want a fling, not a relationship. Single Lesbians is a site for casual fun, so you won't need to explain yourself, and it saves time for everyone.

Keep it as private as you like

If you'd rather not be recognised, choose a username nobody would connect to you. Other members see your town, never your address, and explicit photos stay blurred until you choose to look. Our guide to keeping it discreet has the rest.

Check she's real, then meet

Look for a verification badge on her profile before you meet: members can verify for free with ID, or by video call with no documents at all. When you're ready, our guide to first-time hookups covers the first drink and what to bring, and meeting women near you explains how to find someone close by.